To say or not to say, "I'm sorry". Is that a question, too?

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            Communication is the pupils’ major in most schools. It focuses on exchanges that make sense. It consists of interacting positively in various situations simulating real life. Normally, there must be a great amount of etiquette and politeness in conversations that are supposed to happen in real life. Among the things the pupils learn are how to communicate civilly. They learn how to ask for anything and how to respond respectfully. They also learn how to apologize when they feel they have done something wrong. Well, this is great. What if the learners learn to behave first? They should learn their rights and duties vis-à-vis their entourage and their community. They should learn how to conduct themselves correctly and respectfully according to the norms of the community in which they live. They should remain inside their circle of liberty and never invade others’ either physically or verbally. This way, they won’t need to keep apologizing all the time.

            There are situations in life that the kids are not prepared for, and they almost don’t know how to cope with, but if they are prepared to be active citizens, they would easily find an outlet. They need to admit it when they feel guilty and apologize for any harm they could have caused to the others. This is the only way they will learn not to be outraged and abide by the rules and customs of the society in which they live. Once they are not brought up correctly, they will never be aware when they do wrong. They have no background knowledge about the rules to rely upon in dealing with life diverse situations.

            They have to learn to be good communicators, extroverted and sociable. They should learn never to be ashamed to say, “I am sorry” when they have to. Apologizing is not easy for most people, it needs courage and self-confidence. Despite all, before teaching kids how to apologize, teach them how to avoid situations in which they would be obliged to say sorry. They should learn to gain control of their behavior. This is how the loose “I’m sorry” would gradually vanish except for courtesy or for showing compassion.

It’s usually too late when one says, “sorry!”

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